Friendship is a mutual thing, I've learned. You gotta give, you gotta get. My friend J recently wrote something on his advice blog whowewillbecome.blogspot.com about how sometimes, friends just don't talk for whatever reason. Friendship is also a selfless thing. So maybe you're sick of doing all the work in a friendship. That's a little selfish. I'm going to contradict what I just said, though. It's selfless, being sick of doing all the work. And you know why that is? Because if you're the one doing all the work in the relationship, it's not really a relationship. Furthermore, you're only hurting both parties by doing all the work. The person not doing the work clearly does not value the friendship or the other person, and you are hurting them by not just letting them go off with the people they actually value, if such persons exist. The person doing all the work is not only being hurt by the person not doing work, they are hurting themselves by convincing themselves that it is their fault for letting the friendship lapse or that their friend does not like them, and therefore no one likes them, and therefore they convince themselves that they are, indeed, less worthy of a person.
Yeah. That's my two cents. Now where's the extra penny going?
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